Thank you to all of you for your overwhelming support. I wanted to let you know what I did.
I did contact his wife via email, using an anonymous email address I set up through Yahoo. My first and only question was if she was married to X of X? My comment after that was that I had something to tell her.
She replied that yes she was and who was I?
And her follow up email was this: "If your cell phone number is X and you live near X, I think I know what this is about."
I replied that if she did know about it, what she did not know was that I was sorry. I explained to her that I did not know he was married and would *not* have dated him if I had known that. I then told her she was welcome to ask any questions she may have and in the next few emails she did.
What I found out was that: they have been married 12(!) years and he had done this before. She had been suspecting it, had confronted him, received denials and they separated for a while. The even more shocking part was that she had previously forgiven him and that she remained committed to their marriage. WTF?
As a sidebar, if I were married and my husband cheated on me, I would not only be calling a locksmith but setting his things onto the driveway. But that is me. She is apparently a more forgiving human being.
She asked me a few more things and I answered her honestly. She seemed surprised at my last contact with him, as she had been under the impression it was well before that date.
I don't imagine I'll hear from her again, nor him for that matter. What a ridiculous mess.
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