I found out, via an email reply to the email I'd sent him, that I am defriended because he is now engaged to said woman he's been living with and she wasn't happy about me being on his friend list. Thus, the defriending.
Oooooh, the power I have!
Now if only this power could be transformed into a big bottle of wine, a roaring fire, the Hoosier Guy and me, that would be worth something.
That kind of power? I don't need it, I don't want it, I wish it gone. I'm just someone he used to date for about ten minutes, nothing more, nothing less.
Like I said, I wish him well and much happiness.
The evil side of me wonders what other things he'll have to give up in the name of love...
No Thank You, I'm good. Don't want that kind of love. Had that before and I'll never make the mistake of calling it love again.
1 Corinthians 13
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
... And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
http://niv.scripturetext.com/1_corinthians/13.htm
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Thursday, December 9, 2010
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
It's a funny thing, being 'defriended' on Facebook
Earlier this week, I'd noted my "friend count" had gone down on FB, but with folks coming and going, and life constantly changing, I figured it was probably someone I 'gamed' with, not someone I knew.
Whether or not it was this week (or in weeks past), I now know who it was. It's a funny thing ... this timing. Last year at about this very time, he and I ceased dating because he was confused about his life and a past love. At the time, I was stone cold pissed -- upset beyond words -- crying -- the nasty 'boo hooing' one only does when one is truly ALONE because of how awful you sound and look. Looking back, I'm not quite sure why it hit me so hard -- maybe it was the 'promise' of something good dating-wise, maybe it was because he was (and likely remains) a gentleman (opening car doors and the like), or maybe it was because 'our' dairy queen lady loved to tell me about 'my husband' -- when in reality we'd only gone out a few times at that point, invariably stopping at DQ for a sweet after. Like I said, looking back, I'm not quite sure what I was all fired up about but I was, at one point, anyway, really hurt that he and I had stopped dating.
Since that time (and shortly after we stopped dating), he moved in with yet another female and has since made a life with her and their collective children. At last check, he seemed happy. I think that's all you can hope for someone is that they are happy (and I do wish that for him).
I looked him up today because I was curious how his classes turned out this semester. Yes, he is a student at my college, albeit at the campus north of here, but he's mentioned me a few times in his postings and my colleagues -- often giving them a shout-out when they've been good to him.
And now we're defriended.
And since that time of our dating, I didn't date anyone until Hoosier Guy.
And now I am thankful EVERY DAY things didn't work out with that other guy. I would've hated to miss out on someone as lovely as Hoosier Guy. Funny how life works out sometimes, isn't it?
Whether or not it was this week (or in weeks past), I now know who it was. It's a funny thing ... this timing. Last year at about this very time, he and I ceased dating because he was confused about his life and a past love. At the time, I was stone cold pissed -- upset beyond words -- crying -- the nasty 'boo hooing' one only does when one is truly ALONE because of how awful you sound and look. Looking back, I'm not quite sure why it hit me so hard -- maybe it was the 'promise' of something good dating-wise, maybe it was because he was (and likely remains) a gentleman (opening car doors and the like), or maybe it was because 'our' dairy queen lady loved to tell me about 'my husband' -- when in reality we'd only gone out a few times at that point, invariably stopping at DQ for a sweet after. Like I said, looking back, I'm not quite sure what I was all fired up about but I was, at one point, anyway, really hurt that he and I had stopped dating.
Since that time (and shortly after we stopped dating), he moved in with yet another female and has since made a life with her and their collective children. At last check, he seemed happy. I think that's all you can hope for someone is that they are happy (and I do wish that for him).
I looked him up today because I was curious how his classes turned out this semester. Yes, he is a student at my college, albeit at the campus north of here, but he's mentioned me a few times in his postings and my colleagues -- often giving them a shout-out when they've been good to him.
And now we're defriended.
And since that time of our dating, I didn't date anyone until Hoosier Guy.
And now I am thankful EVERY DAY things didn't work out with that other guy. I would've hated to miss out on someone as lovely as Hoosier Guy. Funny how life works out sometimes, isn't it?
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